There’s always that Mars/Venus thing going on . . with everything. Maybe it’s Engineer/Normal. Like the flosstubers, Brenda & The Serial Starter, Vince and I could start our own youtube channel . . The Early Riser and the Night Owl. If we could go to bed about 11:00 p.m. and sleep til about 6 a.m., I could live with that but Vince falls asleep sometime before 9 p.m.
I love when we go to bed at the same time and we talk two or three minutes before he falls asleep. I can usually go to sleep as soon as I go to bed and at least a couple of nights a week, I try to do that because I hate not going to bed when he goes to bed. The reality is . . I function better and get more done late at night and he’s the opposite. He works very hard outside so I know he’s tired early but even on the days when he stays inside all day and “takes it easy”, he still falls asleep by 9 p.m.
On the nights I go to bed early, if I can fall asleep before my head starts thinking of all the things I could do by staying up a few hours later, I’m good but once something like that pops into my head, it’s over . . get up or toss and turn for a couple of hours. I try to start reading a good book as soon as I know Vince is starting to go to sleep. I’ll fall asleep faster that way and my mind stays occupied with the book and not thinking about something I want to be doing.
Even though I feel like we should go to bed together, and I don’t know if it even matters . . sometimes I think Vince likes to go to bed without me chattering and thinking of “one more thing” at least half a dozen times that I need to tell him.
I enjoy being up a couple of hours by myself. Sometimes I write in my journal, sometimes I piddle around in the kitchen, sometimes I work on a new menu plan. I think he also enjoys being up and having an hour or so of quiet time before I get up in the morning.
In the end, I suppose so long as we’re both happy with the routine, that’s all that matters, right?